so settle back and breath easy; no death talk today. today is wedding talk day.
for those of you who i haven't told, we have set a date- Saturday June 24th, 2006. all of the wedding activities will take place on my grandparent's farm on the eastern shore of maryland, and all of you are invited. (well, most of the people who read this blog are invited...you know who you are...if i haven't met you in person or seen you in the last 10 years, you're probably not invited, sorry)
i have already gotten a lot of planning stuff started, because i hate my job and have a lot of free time to surf the internet and read wedding porn. i have a caterer booked (who will also do the cake and act as a day-of-event manager), an officiant (my stepmother, who is a judge), my bridal party chosen (including synge, naturally), we're using an i-pod for the music (a method i tested to much sucess at R's wedding), and, of course, we have the property reserved (being that i own 1/8th of it). i've booked a block of hotel rooms at the local comfort suites and researched all of the local b&b's; a good friend of mine who own's a letterpress printing company is going to do the save-the-dates, invitations, programs, etc.; we're making our own favors; and i am thinking that i may want to do the flowers by myself too, with a lot of help from my crafty and talented aunts. i am meeting with the rental company to go over rental and tent needs on tuesday and going dress shopping in november- though i think that i already know which dress i'm going with.
probably either this (with a blue sash):
or more likely this (with light blue or ivory detail):
the second one is the front runner- i know you can't really see it from the picture, but it looks great on- very curvy and trumpet shaped- and the ribbon detail on the back looks really cool when it's bustled. the greatest part is that both of these are BRIDESMAID dresses, which means they only cost around $300. i am still going to go out and try some more on, but i already love both of these and i know that if i keep looking for too much longer i wll fall in love with some $1000 number that would blow my budget out of the water.
that's my wedding news so far. J is being wonderful and wants to help and be involved as much as possible. he just started a second job to save up because he insists that he wants to pay for half of everything, even though i insisted that my dead folks left me plenty to foot the bill (oops! i guess i just can't do a post without mentioning the DP's at least once). now all i have to do is pray for sunshine and start hitting the gym. and about a million other details that i'm sure i haven't even considered yet.
oh, and kristoise and MAH (if you're reading), in reference to the post on MAH's blog, do you really think that i need placecards for everyone at the reception? we're doing a buffet dinner and not having any specifically designated time to sit down and eat- more of a mingling atmosphere. we're not expecting more than 90 and everyone should at least know several people they could sit with besides me and J- is it too terribly improper to ask people to seat themselves?
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I read your blog. Not every day, but I read it. I can relate to you in so many ways, EXCEPT for the wedding thing. I will still read though. I wish you so much happiness with your future. (by the way, both dresses are gorgeous!) I am sure you are going to make a beautiful bride. :)
I don't think you don't need placecards if you're doing heavy hors deourves, which is what is sounds like you're doing sort of. But then you probably want to use little plates. I have this thing against the little plates. I am anti-little plate because it's like you're supposed to eat a full meal, but you can't ever eat a full meal from the little plate...which means you have to go back and get another little plate. And if there aren't any seats left because you're really supposed to mingle then somehow you have to hold your little plate and your glass and eat and talk to people all at the same time, which is really impossible.
I will ask my mom about this. She should know.
About nobody reading your blog...you need to advertise it a bit. No one can read it if they don't know about it. If you post on wedding message boards or loss message boards and you list your blog address, readers with common interests will be able to find your blog.
I think I like the first dress better, but that's just from the picture. It's hard to tell without seeing it on.
What about a cake? Any cake ideas yet? What's hot right now in wedding cakes? Are cupcake cakes out? I thought they were very cool.
I think if you're having a buffet, it's ok. My experience was at a sit down dinner and it was really awkward. However, if you have people who aren't going to know a lot of your guests, it might be a good idea. I don't think you can go wrong with placecards.
MAH
i think placecards for a buffet are silly and awkward. when its buffet, people should be free to mingle and have fun. i was at a wedding this weekend where i knew no one. it was buffet, no placecards, and i didn't feel awkward because i had no assigned seating. there weren't even tables, and it was fine.
i'll go mingle with everyone so no one's left out, how's that? i'll seek out those standing awkwardly alone. actually, if i'm still with DH and he ends up coming, then i'm certain he'll introduce himself to absolutely everyone there within 5 minutes, as he did this weekend...he's odd like that.
i do read, and i do comment. stated for the record, though i suppose i don't count. is the new color because black is morose or something?
if the second is trumpet shaped (like the two we really liked from trying them on in ny, i assume?) i think that's my vote, though i do love both from the pics shown.
i'm going to start tearing up, talking about your wedding dress and all. big lump in throat right now. aaaahhhh.
now what i want to hear about is the final color choice for the bridesmaid dresses.
see, it IS true- happier posting= more comments.
angelize, don't worry, i am not turning this into a total wedding blog, and even if i did, i am sure the wedding stuff will bring up lots of parent issues. for instance the fact that absolutely NO wedding books/magazines/etc. take into account the idea that maybe you don't HAVE a mother to help you with all of the planning or a dad to share that first dance with.
everyone else, thanks for the input on the place cards dilemma. i do think that since we're doing buffet it should not be necessary. the reception will start with a cocktail hour with light hors d'oeuvres, then- like kristoise said- "morph subtley" into the real food buffet. (don't worry vix, there will be no small plates and plenty of surface areas to rest your drink and/or plate). we are not announcing a time when everyone needs to sit down and eat- we may do the toasts at the end of the cocktail hour to dileneate the change (or we may do the toasts at the beginning of the cocktail hour to avoid totally drunken toasts, i'm not sure yet), but i figure everyone is smart and they will figure out that when the buffet opens they are free to eat.
synge, if you want to be the goodwill ambassador of the wedding and take all of the lonely stragglers under your wing, that sounds great to me- i'm sure you'll do a fine job (especially after a few margaritas !).
oh, and kristoise, i am afraid i can't accomodate your indian wedding fantasy, but maybe you should come out and visit me next summer- my downstairs neighbor (and friend) is obsessed with indian culture and last year we had a "Bollywood" party for her birthday. traditional indian dress was required (she loaned me a sari), she made beautiful decorations (marigolds and all), i cooked a bunch of authentic indian food, and we watched bollywood films all night. next year she wants to do it for indian new year (some time in august).
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